Blog — 650,000 Hours

by Ken Budd

Stress. A mother’s stress. That’s what changed Corinne Cannon’s life.

Her son, Jack, was a colicky, restless, challenging baby. With each scream, with each tense, trying, bleary-eyed night, she grew more frustrated—even angry. And then she had an epiphany:

If I have resources, and I feel like this, what is it like for mothers who have nothing?

Corinne Cannon founded the DC Diaper Bank while raising an infant son and working a full-time job.

Families with kids are encouraged to volunteer at the DC Diaper Bank.

And that has long-term effects, right?

The first three years of a child’s life can fundamentally change their trajectory. If you have three years of poor brain nutrition, you can’t fix it when the child is nine. The damage is done.

So what is the diaper bank’s role?

Women face a lot of barriers to seeking help. Admitting that you can’t feed your child is terrifying, especially for a young mother. We want to alleviate the financial burden and the guilt, and we use the incentive of diapers or formula to connect mothers to social workers and other resources. I call these gateway resources. It’s a way to engage a mom who wouldn’t otherwise reach out.

You’ve said this job makes you cry. Why?

It angers me that children are going hungry. That women are reusing diapers or using fast food napkins for tampons. When we talk to volunteers or donors—when people think what it would be like to care for an infant without resources—they’re dumbstruck. Food stamps were cut about a year and a half ago by $1.3 billion over 10 years. But there was no conversation about the mental health aspects of a young mother listening to her baby cry because she’s hungry. We’re missing that part of the conversation—the reality of hungry children, children who are in physical pain from diaper rash, women who go without showers because they’d rather buy food than soap. That’s what makes me cry. Because we do not need to be here.

"People want to help...and that's where I find the greatest joy." (Photos courtesy of DC Diaper Bank)

How has the diaper bank brought you joy?

I never thought this is what I would be doing. This is not where I saw myself. But the more you say yes, and the more you say “please help,” the more things grow. We have over one thousand volunteers each year. People want to help—they’re excited to help—and that’s where I find the greatest joy. It’s made me more open to possibilities. And I hope that lesson carries over into the rest of my life.

Ken Budd is the host of 650,000 Hours, a web series and podcast launching in 2020. He is the author of the award-winning memoir The Voluntourist and his writing credits include The Atlantic, The New York Times, National Geographic, Travel + Leisure, The Washington Post, and many more..

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by Ken Budd

I turned 50 two weeks ago. I wondered if I would wake up suddenly wiser, or with osteoporosis, but 50 felt no different than 49—which is true of most milestone birthdays. Do you remember turning 10? Of course not. (Though no one made senior citizen jokes when I turned 10.) Twenty is a breeze. It’s way cooler than 19. Twenty means that in 12 months you can legally buy Jose Cuervo. Thirty? Great age. You’re still young, but you’re also a grownup. And you can afford something better than Jose Cuervo.

Forty was the first birthday that felt…different. For me, 40 was like peering at a distant object. You study it, you squint, it’s kind of fuzzy, you can barely see it, but something is out there, waaaay out there, it’s tiny, yet somehow visible, and you say—

Is that death?

I think it might be death. Honey, where are my binoculars—I think I see death.

At 50 you realize: Yep, that’s death, alright.

I’m not anti-death. Death, like bladder control, is one of God’s more underrated creations. Not senseless death, or early death, or painful death; not the death of war, terror, cruelty, poverty, abuse, neglect, suicide, disease. The beauty of death is that everything has an end point. Everything. The Earth will die. The sun will die. The universe will go kaput. Our lives are finite—so we should live them with gusto. Take risks! Do that thing that scares you! Learn Spanish. Learn Swahili. Learn Klingon. Try all 31 flavors at Baskin-Robbins. Don’t waste time watching any show that includes the words “Real Housewives.”

Death is our admission fee for the privilege of life. It gives life urgency. It makes life worth living. And yes, graying hair and creaky joints are part of that fee.

On the day I turned 50, my wife and I took a long walk through the woods with our dogs. It was drizzling. A grey morning mist grew to a sprinkle. As we passed a tiny neighborhood playground, our beagle, Wag, trotted in the mulch toward some hidden scent. I followed him, stepped on the playground’s wood border, which was super slick from the rain, and—WHAM!

I fell. Slammed into the mulch. A mulch bellyflop. A mulch sandwich. Whatever you want to call it—mulch ado about nothing?—it was jarring.

I stood, my foot sore, my dignity semi-intact, and brushed debris from my wet and dirty jeans. A few minutes later, we crossed a small wood bridge. I was still thinking about fall #1 when little 20-pound Wag yanked the leash, his hypersensitive nostrils detecting squirrels, and—WHAM!

I fell AGAIN, crashing onto the bridge. This time it hurt. I lay on the slippery wood, rain pelting my face, and thought…Is this what 50 is gonna be like?

Thirteenth birthday. Also not traumatic.

So two weeks after the big 5-oh, I have a set of scabby knees, just like we all had when we were kids. Childhood never really ends. We fall, we bleed, we keep going. We’re just better equipped to deal with life’s abrasions. And that’s why I would rather be 50 than five, or 15, or even 25. I feel more centered, more grounded, more resilient. I know what’s important. I know who I am.

“Turning 50 is not a life-changing experience,” my older sister recently said. “It’s not like losing a limb.” No other birthday would invoke thoughts of severed body parts, but she’s right. As for that dark, murky figure in the distance, I’m putting my binoculars away. He and I will meet at some point, but for now, and I hope it’s a long now, I’ve got better things to see.

Ken Budd is the host of 650,000 Hours, a web series launching in 2016. He is the author of the award-winning memoir The Voluntourist and his writing credits include The New York Times, National Geographic, Smithsonian, The Washington Post, and The Chicago Tribune.

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